There comes a time in every girl’s life where she wonders if her vagina is normal. Maybe she thinks her clit is abnormally big. Maybe she finds the size of her lips unattractive. Maybe it’s the bumpy texture that makes her uneasy. If these are some of your concerns, don’t worry gf your vaj is probably normal.
For so long, I too, thought that there was one vagina that set the tone for how others should look. You know the super thin ones-with proportionate lips, subtle clits and an even skin tone to match- that most guys seemed to praise. With those unrealistic expectations, it’s easy to understand why so many of us feel like we have the Ross Geller of vaginas.
Despite what porn has shown us and the vagina bashing we hear from others, I’m here to tell you that if your vagina is healthy, then she’s normal. There is no right or wrong way for vaginas to look. The truth is, our lady parts are not so different from other body parts. (Minus the whole bleeding every month & ability to bring new life into the world.) We all have the same setup, but we don’t all look exactly the same. Vaginas are so diverse. They vary in color, lip size, symmetry, clit size, and even texture. Literally if Dr. Seuss wrote a book about them it would go like:
Little Clit, Big Clit, Short Lips, Long Lips, Etc. -Probably Dr. Seuss
I know that a one liner from an imaginary Dr. Seuss book won’t magically make you feel confident in your kitty; so let’s break it down to explore what a normal (healthy ) vagina can look like.
*Before we continue, I want to clarify: the vulva is the external part of the genitals and your vagina is the internal part. Ik most people (including myself) use the word “vagina” to describe the whole private area, which is cool, as long as you know the difference🤓*
L is for Labia
You should have two sets of lips down there- the labia majora and the labia minora. Both sets of lips protect your internal sex organs. You’ll probably notice the labia majora first when inspecting your vulva. These are the fleshy outer lips under your mon pubis- the area above the two marked folds of skin.
Your labia minora is the set of thinner lips that rest under your clit and in between the labia majora. If you don’t see your labia minora, you need to spread your (outer) lips open. If they‘re slightly poking out or hang past your outer lips then great, that’s less work for you. The labia minora is full of nerve endings that naturally lubricate and give you sensations during sex. Therefore, the bigger the inner lips the more pleasure you will feel!!!!!
Our labia come in many combinations. Similarly to belly buttons, they can be innies or outies. There are puffy lips... thin lips....stretchy lips....and asymmetrical lips. It can be lighter or darker than the woman’s skin. It’s also important to understand, the labia changes as we go through puberty (so don’t be alarmed if you suddenly have a bumpy texture in places that were once smooth). The great thing is, all the vulvas described above are perfectly healthy. Congrats, you’re normal🥳!
But there are situations when the way your labia looks and feels is unhealthy, therefore not normal. In these cases there is an underlying issue that requires medical attention. If you experience burning, extreme itchiness, or bleeding these could all be signs of an infection. Be sure to visit your gyno for treatment!
If you need more assurance, look at this awesome (NSFW) gallery to see examples of what a healthy vulva can look like.
C is for Clit
The clit is the bean like nub that sits right above the labia minora. We can only see the tip of the clit, but it’s way bigger. It turns out, approximately 3 quarters of the organ is internal. The average external clit is 1/4 inch to 1/2 inch , but it’s okay if yours is bigger or smaller than that. The best part of it all is that our clit is literally a ball of nerves. It has around 8,000 nerve endings while the penis only has 4,000(Take That Suckas😜).
Our clits are so powerful they need extra protection. That’s why we have the clitoral hood- the flap that surrounds the clit- which protects our external clit from irritation and excessive stimulation. Some clits are hidden behind the hood while others are slightly exposed. Just like our labia, the clitoral hood varies in shape, color, and size. Don’t believe me? Check out another NSFW gallery that shows you the ins and outs of the clitoral hood.
A normal clit can be short, long, or hidden behind the hood. It’s okay, if your clitoral hood is wrinkly, thin or thick.
If your clit feels itchy or sore then you need to check under the hood to see what‘s going on. Those symptoms can be a sign of yeast infection or smegma build up. Clits that are painful to touch could be your body’s way of telling you to give it break. Excessive stimulation really does a number on your clit!
V is for Vagina (Vaj,Vaj-jay, Vagine, or Whatever Your Vagina’s Petname Is)
The vagina is the muscular canal between the urethra and anus. We can’t see much of the vagina because it’s pretty much all internal. The closest we come to seeing our vagina is when we inspect our vaginal opening- the little slit where periods and babies come from. Although we can’t see it, we can feel it to get an idea of what the vaginal walls are like.
Many say the vaginal wall is similar to the tissue in our mouth. It’s surface has rugae which are bumpy tissue that help us get things in and out of our vaginas. These bumps are natural so don’t freak out. However, if you feel a wart or sore that could be a STD symptom. Go to the doctor as soon as you see these warning signs.
To ensure that your vagina is functioning properly, pay attention to how it feels and what your discharge looks like. Pain during sex means that you need to use lube or you might need more foreplay before intercourse. If you have vaginal pain regularly that could be a symptom of a serious condition. Take a trip to the gyno so they can determine what‘s causing your pain.
Discharge indicates a healthy vagina. It’s purpose is to rid the vagina of dead cells and bad bacteria. Normal discharge ranges from clear to a thick white color. The way your discharge looks depends on the stage you are in your menstrual cycle, but it’s typically odorless. If you have clumpy, gray, yellow, or a foul odor coming from your discharge then you should all know who to see by now.
D is for Douche
If someone is bashing your vagina and making you feel insecure you need to let them go. You don’t need to change your vaj but you probably should change your mans👋🏽
Ladies we have to be confident in the way our vaginas look. It won‘t look exactly like the next girl‘s and that‘s okay. As long as your vagina is healthy then she is normal.If there is something down there that concerns you be sure to always consult with your doctor.